Social Graces

A few important reminders: I've met some absolutely crass, boorish people who don’t follow any of these social graces .This is for them: ( borrowed from a childhood friend who often does things very right 😉)

1. Don't call someone repeatedly if they don't pick up; assume they have something important to attend to.

2. Return borrowed money before being asked; it demonstrates integrity. The same applies to borrowed items like umbrellas,books, pens, and sundries 

3. Avoid ordering the most expensive dish when someone treats you to a meal.

4. Refrain from asking awkward questions like marriage status, having kids, or financial matters; it's not your concern.

5. Always hold the door open for others, regardless of their gender or age. Kindness in public doesn't diminish you.

6. If a friend pays for a taxi, offer to pay next time.

7. Respect differing opinions; what's a 6 to you might be a 9 to someone else. Second opinions can be valuable.

8. Allow people to express themselves without interruption; listen and filter their thoughts.

9. If teasing someone isn't enjoyable for them, stop and avoid repeating it.

10. Express gratitude when someone helps you.

11. Give compliments in public and offer criticism privately.

12. Avoid commenting on someone's weight; instead, say they look fantastic.

13. Don't swipe left or right on someone's phone when they show you a photo.

14. When a colleague mentions a doctor's appointment, express concern for their well-being instead of prying into their personal matters.

15. Treat everyone with respect, regardless of their position; rudeness isn't impressive.

16. It's rude to stare at your phone when someone is speaking to you.

17. Only offer advice when asked.

18. When reuniting with someone after a long time, avoid asking about their age and salary unless they bring it up themselves.

19. Mind your own business unless you're directly involved.

20. Remove your sunglasses when speaking to someone on the street; it shows respect and allows for eye contact, which is important.

21. Avoid discussing your wealth in the company of those less fortunate, and be sensitive when talking about children around those who can't have them.

22. After reading a thoughtful message, express gratitude by saying, "Thanks for the message."

Remember, showing appreciation is a simple way to receive what you desire.

Coming Soon - The Maritimes Summer of 21

Hello there, Staying home the last 18 months with all our outings in this beautiful country restricted to a once a week hurried and sanitized trip to the grocerer. This was coming especially with the eligible in the family getting our mandated two jabs. So, as we fold the maps, organize the bookings, load up the car and strike off the to-dos before cranking up the engine, here it is...Coming Soon! Our Summer road trip to the Canadian maritimes across Quebec, New Brunswick and Nova Scotia .Hopefully, I will find time to record this trip at least with some pictures - And, just like that we are on our way to everywhere!

 

The Route

Mississauga,ON --> St. Eulailie,QB --> Moncton,NB --> Charlottetown,PEI --> Cavendis,PEI -->Moncton,NB --> Cape Bretton,NS-->Halifax,NS-->Montmagny,QB--> Mississauga,ON

Le plus beau voyage c'est celui qu'on n'a pas encore fait

The simple rules of the Game

An old song to feel positive

The moon belongs to everyone
The best things in life are free
The stars belong to everyone
They gleam there for you and me
The flowers in spring
The robins that sing
The sunbeams that shine
They're yours, they're mine
And love can come to everyone
The best things in life are free
Honey, the moon belongs to everyone
You know the best things in life are free
And the stars, they belong to everyone
They're shining up there for you and for me
The flowers in spring
The robins that sing
The sunbeams that shine
They're yours, they're mine
And love can come to everyone
The best things in life are free
The best things in life are free

CFTRI Mysore, An Institution, so revered...

All of my formative years were spent attending school spending after school hours at the Central Food Technological Research Institute campus in Mysore. This large wooded campus housed my school in addition to my dad's workplace where he spent his entire career in his lab reading,researching and experimenting. Spending 8-10 hours each day schooling,swimming and playing Tennis and Table Tennis at  this campus influenced a lot of my own love for the outdoors (a privilege if you grew up in Indian cities) while teaching us a few life skills in a tropical forest (yes, we had a few acreage of dense forest cover adjoining our school campus with a lot of  wildlife and very old trees. This campus was a gift to the country by the benevolent Maharaja of Mysore in 1948 which Jawaharlal Nehru accepted on behalf of the government of India. Anyone who has had a chance to visit or experience this prestigious institution will probably agree with me about the beautiful environment this campus creates to nurture science and creativity. It is also worth remembering the vision our founding fathers and the Maharaja had towards institution and nation building that was evident in their thoughts,deeds and actions. I have been impressed by HH Maharaja Sri Jaya Chamaraja Wodeyar's ( A well rounded personality with a fine flair for science, arts and literatur) speech (reproduced below) on the occasion of Opening of CFTRI,Mysore

Speech of His Highness Maharaja Sri Jaya Chamaraja Wadiyar Bahadur, G.C.B., G.C.S.I., Maharaja of Mysore, on the occasion of the Opening of the Central Food Technological Research Institute, Mysore.

Saturday, the 21st October 1950 at 5-30 p.m.

HONOURABLE SRI RAJAGOPALACHARI, LADIES AND GENTLEMEN,

I FEEL it a privilege to preside on this historic occasion when the auspicious ceremony of formally inaugurating the Central Food Technological Research Institute will be performed by one of the makers and leaders of Independent India, the Honouiable Sri C. Rajagopalachari.

I am indeed happy that this Institute is located in Mysore, and this feeling is born not from any sense of narrow provincialism, but out of a realisation of the service we owe our motherland and the opportunity that the location of this Institution here has given us to render some measure of that service in a special and more intimate manner. Our thanks are due to the Government of India and my Government for this achievement which, on merits and from the point of view of the efficiency and future development of the Institute, has received the approval of the savants concerned. We are under a special debt of gratitude to the Honourable Prime Minister for the keen personal interest he has always taken in the advancement of science and applied sciences' in our country and in this Institute in particular. We cannot forget how he did us the honour of coming over to Mysore and receiving in person the Cheluvamba -Mansion for the location of this Institute.

I do not wish to dwell on the technical aspects of the work of the Institute, the tasks in which it is engaged and the problems which it will attempt to solve. The Annual Report and other papers published in this connection will give full and impressive information on these matters.

Food, clothing and housing are three of the basic necessities of life. The importance of food cannot be overemphasized in a poor under-nourished country like India. The solution of these problems is as important as maintenance of our national security; and, in fact, security and national progress are inter-linked. They are two facets of the same reality which constitutes the fullness of our life and its uninterrupted progress to higher, and yet higher, levels.

This Institute is one amongst the many enterprises that are evidence of the innate constructive genius of our Nation. Our Government, since the advent of Swaraj has been trying to liquidate the arrears of centuries in the matter of scientific, industrial, and material progress. Think of the many research laboratories it has organised; of the many dams and reservoirs it has planned for the conservation of waters needed, in our dry and droughty land; of the many power stations that are in the stage of planning or actually under construction for the improvement of the economic condition of our people ; of the encouragement it has given to ship-building ; and of the many research laboratories—Pure and Applied—it is establishing all over the country and the stimulus and support it has given to research and creative activities generally in a number of University centres. History finds few parallels for such a record of constructive power and effort.

If only the situation from the point of view of peace—internal and external—had been happier and less exposed to possible storms, we could have concentrated, as suits our racial bent, on schemes of prosperity. But alas, the skies not only over the frontiers of our own land but over the world at large, are still overcast, and we can only hope and pray that they will clear to give us a very long spell of assured peace and unassailable security.

Our people, generally speaking, are excessively conservative. Under all the circumstances of their historical background, it could hardly be otherwise. It is only recently that a new life and a new spirit, a new outlook and a new activity, have sprung up and are beginning to spread amongst the masses. So, when substitutes for rice or for milk or for any of the foods we have been accustomed to, have been discovered, the people at large are apt to be very reluctant to utilise such products, no matter how convincingly their value has been proved scientifically. There is therefore a call on the educated people and the upper strata of our society to set an example by betaking to such products themselves first and openly. Conduct spreads by conduct, and leadership in thought must be sustained by leadership in action, for social conduct flows like the purifying and fertilising Ganges from the heights to the plains below. The educated classes have thus an. imperative obligation to see that their ways of life are conceived and directed by social objectives and values.

Our students are sensitive to the call Of the Nation and of Patriotism. It seems to me that there could hardly be better material for the propaganda which will surely be needed by this Institute (and its branches and affiliations to be organised in due course) than that which the colleges and college hostels of our country will afford. Considering the short time that has elapsed since the foundation of this Institute and the inevitable initial difficulties in gathering the necessary personnel and material, putting up additions and alterations to the buildings and fitting up the laboratories, we may perhaps feel satisfied with the progress so far achieved both in organisation and in functioning, but I do fervently hope that in the coming years its progress will be striking and on an ever-ascending scale. 

It is indeed our good fortune that today Sri Rajagopalachari will he performing the inaugural ceremony of this Institute, and in that act will be giving it the inspiration and strength so necessary to its healthy growth. Could there be any finer example of service to the country than that set by our beloved Rajaji who, having crowned a great political career by occupying the highest position in our Nation, that of Governor-General, did not rest on his laurels, but considered it his duty to continue to strive in that service in the Cabinet of the Honourable Pandit Jawaharlal Nehru, To my mind that noble act in itself illustrates how, under Independence, function has a far higher value and attraction than position. I remember reading in the History of Greece of Epaminondas who was Commander-in-Chief of the Boeotian Army; but who, when he had to relinquish that position, rejoined the army as a private soldier. In a similar way, Rajaji has set an example of patriotic duty that all should emulate but which, perhaps, none could excel. He has shown that, under Independence, function is more than position and service more than career. 

I have now much pleasure, ladies and gentlemen, in requesting the Honorable Sri C. Rajagopalachari to inaugurate the Central Food Technological Research Institute and to launch it on its uninterrupted and unlimited course of research, discovery and invention, redounding to the material betterment of the Country and its strength. 

Growing up in Mysore

This article is a reproduction of many a forward on my WhatsApp messenger. Nostalgia and nothing else each time I read it. Thought of saving it here for posterity.

Mysore or Mysuru, cannot be experienced in holidays or weekends. Like a creeper growing and encircling the bark, you have to live, and grow with Mysore to experience it. You have to be with the ajjis who have seen you from the time you were soooo small, where the maid who works in your house is your family maid, your ajji had “recruited” her mother.

When you go on an evening walk, and the pujari of the Ram Mandir, stops and chats with you, and moves on saying there is a puja at 5 next morning, that’s Mysore for you.

When you walk a little ahead and the librarian says he has the latest copy of “Kasturi” or “Mayura”, that’s Mysore for you.

When the milkman sees you on a walk, and delivers an extra half litre without being asked, that’s  Mysore for you.

Mysore is when you board a bus at the bus stand and conductor-uncle gives you a ticket without asking. Mysore is when you collect little red ‘gulganji’ seeds on your way back home from Kukkarahalli Lake.

Mysore is when you come by the Tipu Express, and you find someone going in your direction to drop you off without hesitation.

Mysore is when elephants are marched in from the forests for Dasara.

Mysore is when the English movies are only at Rajkamal. Or Sterling.

Mysore is when you wait for your copy of Star of Mysore,Mysuru Mitra or Sadhvi

Mysore is when you look for your KEB uncle to book tickets at Woodlands.

Mysore is when there are student body elections in Sarada Vilas. Mysore is the eternal SJCE-NIE feud. Mysore is when Jayciana is in full swing.

Mysore is when you got your project report bound at Venkateshwara Binders in Saraswathipuram.

Mysore is having grape juice at RTO Circle.

Mysore is buying vegetables at Agrahara. Mysore is buying plantain leaves in Nanjumalige, savouring the aroma of the agarbathi factory behind.

Mysore is eating ice-creams at Phalaamrutha or Penguin. Mysore is eating dosa at GTR or Mylari Hotel. Mysore is having biriyani early in the morning, near St. Philos Church. Mysore is drinking sugarcane juice near Kukkarahalli Lake. Mysore is munching corn-on-the-cob in the Palace foreground. Mysore is masalpuri at Ballal Circle and Shetty churumuri.

Mysore is when I grew up in Mysore. My Mysore.